Strategic Coping Skills:Introduction

As we begin this series on coping with our emotions, I would urge you to follow along with me even if you do not have lupus.  I think the emotional challenges are the same for many other  auto-immune diseases.  Life itself, has situations that  can cause emotional distress. We probably all know someone who could benefit from this knowledge.

Can you remember how you felt when you finally received your diagnosis?  I initially had a sense of relief.  It was confirmed, I was not crazy, there was something wrong with me, and it had a name.

My relief was short-lived as I learned about lupus and began treatment.  I remember being fearful about my future, having feelings of anxiety and less than adequate coping skills.  I remember feelings of sadness and depression.

I had mixed emotions that changed at the drop of a hat.  Emotion by definition means a strong feeling deriving from one’s circumstances, mood or relationships with others. (Oxford Dictionary Online)  Strong is the operative word here.

Dr. Robert Phillips Ph.D. and author of Coping with Lupus says I experienced normal responses to a life changing event.  He also says, “the more severe your reactions are, the more they will interfere with your ability to cope.”  p.181

It stands to reason then, that “one of the most important aspects of being able to cope with lupus is the ability to control your emotions.”  p.181  A person’s reactions will not only impact their life, but the lives of those around them.  Where do we start in managing our emotional reactions? Dr. Phillips says:

  • get the best medical care possible
  • join a support group
  • learn about medications that can help you cope
  • explore professional counseling
  • use effective coping strategies

Whether you have just been diagnosed with lupus, or have dealt with lupus for years,   each one of us, has emotional issues we struggle with from time to time.   I hope you will join me, as we  explore this topic.  In the meantime, you may want to consider picking up a copy of Coping with Lupus.  Until next time……

Many blessings to you…..Leslie Rose K

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The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude. -William James

3 responses to this post.

  1. Great post Leslie, I will be looking for a copy of Coping With Lupus! I think no matter what we deal with in life we need to be able to cope because if we can’t it will consume us and we won’t be able to function in the real world. Emotions can be so strong and over whelming, but with help from a support group, friends, or counslers our emotions can be dealt with. We are just in having these emotions but it is how we deal with them that make the diffence in life. Thank you for this awesome post!!!


    • There is a lot of good insight in what you wrote Brenda. Unfortunately, many are afraid to reach out to people who can help them. Perhaps your words will encourage someone who is struggling with this issue.


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