Posts Tagged ‘Friendship’

A key to living a more enjoyable life.

Here we are again, another winter storm on the way.   With the frigid weather I have stayed in most days working on my quilt projects. IMG_4114 When I was sick with a chest cold a few weeks back my husband doted over me for a week, for fear I would end up in the worst possible place-the hospital.  I spent my time reading books and magazines and kept busy the best I could-in spite of not feeling well.  An article in one of the magazines got me thinking about a life changing event I would like to share with you.  Please bear with me if some of this is redundant for some of you.

Each issue of Quilter’s Newsletter magazine, has an article where 4 people respond at length to a certain question.  The question for Feb/March 2014 was, If I could spend a day with a quilter.  I expected people to write about well-known quilters and was  surprised to see that each person wrote about someone who had passed away, someone who impacted their life with quilting.  My thoughts immediately flew to the person who first introduced me to quilting over 30 years ago.  Tears came to my eyes as I thought of my friend, Linda.

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My first quilt. Early 80’s.

I met Linda in my early twenties.  She was just a few years older than me, an  elementary school teacher, who loved “tag-sailing”, and collecting antique things.  Her house was like a museum.  The most memorable thing about Linda was her laugh.  She was one of the happiest people I ever met.  Her eyes even laughed.

Not long after I met her, Linda gave me a personalized quilt block for my anniversary.  I was very intrigued, having never seen anything like it before.  As a result, she offered to show me how to make a simple 9 patch quilt block, like the one in the sampler. (top row, middle block) After her  lesson, I went on to take a quilting class.  Mind you, this was before all the time-saving tools we have today. The class was challenging, but I stayed with it.  In the end, I had this sampler that I still treasure.

Strangely enough, after having made a few quilted items, I gave up quilting for several years to make and sell a variety of hand-made items.  I eventually returned to quilting after remarrying and having my daughter.  I took more classes, and made new friends.  Even though I was busy raising our daughter, and doing child care, I made time to quilt in our cramped little bedroom.

Sewing the binding on my daughters quilt in my tiny sewing area

Sewing the binding on my daughters quilt in my tiny sewing area

After we moved to PA., Linda and I kept in contact mostly at Christmas. This went on for over a decade until one Christmas I received a phone call from her companion telling me Linda had passed away from pancreatic cancer.  I was shocked, and very sad for her 3 children, and for all those who loved this vivacious, happy woman.

Linda’s illness came on her suddenly, her suffering was great, but short.  For many of us, living the rest of our lives with the effects and unpredictability of lupus can be discouraging, even overwhelming.  My purpose for blogging is to encourage us, to plow ahead, into perhaps uncharted territory, and rise above this disease that would seek to rob vitality from our life.  Quilting has helped me in this area.

For me quilting:

  • has helped foster friendships I wouldn’t have otherwise

    Stitch n' Peace Quilt Group Gettysburg Pa.

    Stitch n’ Peace Quilt Group Gettysburg Pa.

  • improves my brain and self-esteem
  • helps me develop persistence, patience, and purpose
  • helps me dominate illness in my life
  • gives me much pleasure, relieves stress, and boredom
  • fills my home with many treasures I get to enjoy

Quilting has allowed me to:

  • show people how much they are loved as they receive a one of a kind gift

    One of the baby quilts for Japan

    One of the baby quilts for Japan

  • send  messages of love and hope to Japan after the tsunami
  • bless babies in Romania at Casa Shalom, and here in Pa. at Tender Care Pregnancy Centers
  • earn money for our family by making doll quilt sets for many little girls

I would love to have the chance to:

  • show Linda my little photo album documenting my journey of quilting.
  • To show her how my abilities have slowly improved over time.
  • To thank her for the wonderful friends I have made.  To tell her how they have helped me grow as a person and  in my ability as a quilter.
  • tell her how crucial quilting has been in helping me rise above the effects of lupus
  • I would like to be able to properly thank her.

We never know how we will impact someones life, and then in a domino affect,  other lives. Working with my hands has been a true lifesaver for me.  Do you have a passion? Or, maybe you are ready to try something new?  Whatever the case, use it to enable yourself to rise above the effects of lupus and make life more enjoyable.dominos

In all fairness, I cannot end this post without recognizing the other people who  were a huge influence in this area.  In high school,  I had a strong inclination toward art, which my father and step-mother were very quick to foster, in the brief time I lived with them.  They really believed in me, which I think gave me confidence to  create in my 20’s.   To this day my step-mother is quick to encourage and support my endeavors, offering wisdom along the way.  And I can’t forget my mother, who has become my biggest quilt cheerleader over the last 10 years. Thank you Dad, Ginny and mom.

In the meantime, borrowing a phrase from Wendy Sheppard, an amazing quilter I follow on-line at Ivory Spring, curious minds want to know, what do you do to dominate your diagnosis?

Until next time,
Many Blessings, Can’t wait to hear from you….Leslie Rose K
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Let the favor  of the Lord our God be upon us,
    and establish the work of our hands upon us;
    yes, establish the work of our hands! Psalm 90:17 ESV
 
 
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30 Posts of enCOURAGEment Post 25

A few weeks ago, in post 19, I wrote about my duck tape encrusted light switch cover, and change.  I do not know if you are in the process of working on a life change, but I do know that the ordinary challenges of each day with autoimmune disease can make it seem impossible to add anything else to the mix.auto-immune  When you have to live everyday with  lupus, CFS, sjogren’s, etc, life changes will often need good doses of, not only courage, but encouragement.   A faithful encourager, walking beside you, is invaluable.

Several years ago I got up the nerve to invite a couple that we did not know over for  dinner .  They sat across from us in church, and I felt drawn to them for several weeks.  During church I asked them if they wanted to come over that day for Easter dinner.  It was a crazy thing to do.  I was sure they would think I was a nut, like my daughter did, easter_mealbut after church they said yes. That was the beginning of our friendship.

As time went on, I taught my new friend some quilting.  Later, I stepped out of my comfort zone, and asked her to be a prayer support for me during a challenging time of writing this blog.  A couple of years ago, we made a decision to try to get together as couples once a month.  In the meantime my friend made a life choice to lose weight.  She had great success.

While I was happy for her and my other close friends in church that had recently lost weight, I did not think I could do it.  I had tried several times with little success.  After months of consideration, I saw Chris Powell on Dr Oz.  His plan clicked with me, and I decided to give it a try.9781401324452

Let me tell you, I do not know what I did to deserve it, but my friend became my biggest encourager.  Every week she sees me, she is quick to ask how I have done, and tell me how good I look.  On weeks when I have struggled, she has boosted my morale.   She is quick to share her tips and her struggles.

We went to their house the other week anticipating another great time of fellowship.  Shortly after arriving, she looked at me with such sincerity and told me how great I looked.  She amazed me with her consistent encouragement.  Little did she know, I was not feeling particularly good about myself that night.

I know you live in the same world I do, and you probably know how rare this soul is, and how blessed I am that I have been given such a gift to help me with this challenge.

As for my friend, perhaps she is standing with me because the battle is still fresh in her mind as she struggles to lose the last few pounds herself, Girls friendshipbut I do not think so.  I think she has made a choice to make a difference in my life, knowing the day-to-day struggles, not just of losing weight, but of living with chronic illness.

As for me, I am truly thankful for this encourager God has planted in my life.

Are you an encourager?  Perhaps it is time to step out of your comfort zone, and ask for encouragement for yourself as you deal with the daily challenges of illness, or with a  life change you are making.  Or maybe you know someone who could use an encourager,  and could be as invaluable to them as my friend is to me.

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work:  If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

I welcome your comments.  Until next time….Leslie Rose K

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Romans 12:12  Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.

Journal Entry:Anchors

Hello Dear Reader.

Several weeks ago, I told you I would be expanding the blog by adding devotionals and journal entry’s. I will always tell you what I am writing and you can choose to read it or not.  I do feel it all ties in together, for this is a journey encompassing many things.    I would like to share more from the heart and this is one way I feel I can do it. I hope you will stick with me and let’s see where this takes us.  As always, I welcome your input, life experiences and whatever you would like to share.

Journal Entry

Do you ever feel like a ship, that has lost control, in a sea of waves far bigger than itself?  I imagine one would long for smooth waters where you could put down the anchor and rest awhile.  It would be even better if it was near a beautiful island, where you could come and go, enjoy its fruit, beaches, sun and shade.

An anchor, prevents a boat from drifting, due to wind or current.  Without an anchor, a boat can  slowly make its way to undesirable  or isolated places .    I remember a time, long ago, when the only anchor I had, was a boyfriend. I had left home at 16, went on my own and was dependent on him to help me from time to time.  It was a hard, lonely time.  My little boat was susceptible to being smashed against the rocks of life and smashed it was a few times, but never completely destroyed.   

I think of those days often, the older I get. I am very grateful for God’s hand over me, even when I was not aware of it.  He has always provided someone to touch my life when I needed it, whether a listening ear, a place to stay, someone to disciple me, teach me, care for me…I am forever thankful for the many anchors He has sent through the years.  I hope, I in turn, am a blessing to others-an anchor for some. 

More next time on THE Anchor.

Blessings to you, Leslie Rose K

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